Is She Addicted to Sex? How to Tell If She’s a Sex Addict

Is my girlfriend a sex addict? How often is TOO often? What if I can’t keep up? Will she cheat, stray or find someone else to satisfy her sexual urges, needs and desires? How can I improve my stamina, staying power and libido to make sure she stays? Any of these questions sound familiar? If you are anything like the millions of men who struggle with understanding female sexuality, this article was written with YOU in mind! Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a deeper dive below.

The signs of “real” sex addiction

The truth is, genuine sex addiction is NOT a common thing and where it IS found in men OR women, it’s rarely about sex. Sexual addiction in the “clinical” sense is typically a manifestation of other compulsive behavior patterns like gambling excessively, or acting out in other reckless ways.

The good news? If you are worried your girlfriend, wife or lover IS addicted to sex, it’s probably simply because she enjoys having it with you as often as possible!~ (and probably means you are satisfying her sexual needs in ways you realize, and ways you don’t)

If you DO find that her sexual needs, wants or desires are SO frequent that they are disruptive to your lives, and you notice other strange compulsive behavior to boot? This is rare… But it could mean that there is an underlying psychological issue that ought to be addressed.

Other things to consider when it comes to a woman’s sex drive?

Most women can have both serial, and sequential orgasms, meaning she can and often will want to go longer, stronger and more frequently than our male partners, who can only climax once. (this is not a sign of sex addiction of course, just a woman who really enjoys it)!

Women have a much longer sexual response cycle than men do as well. This means that it will take her much longer to actually achieve orgasm than you do. Hence, if she prioritizes climax during sexual intercourse, she may appear “addicted” to sex, simply because she wants to keep it going long after you are done.

Many women take far longer to feel sexually comfortable with a partner, but once she DOES, her erotic appetite goes UP dramatically. This is especially obvious at the beginning of a relationship, and why many men find their partners “insatiable” in the first 3-6 months of a new relationship.

Lastly, remember… when it comes to sex, there need not be too much of a good thing! If she loves sex, and more importantly, loves having it with you, consider yourself lucky and enjoy it!

Porn Addiction – 7 Ways to Stay Addicted

Recovery from porn addiction is a simple but difficult process. The principles and directions suggested are not rocket science but they can be difficult to maintain. Unlike other chemical addictions, sex is something that you carry with you between your ears. At any moment, the sex or pornography addict can get a little high just by indulging in fantasy. With such an easy availability and an unending supply, is it any wonder that pornography addicts struggle with sobriety. The bottom line is that the porn addict must be willing to do whatever it takes to get sober and stay sober. He or she can either follow a process that works or they can do one of these top seven things to stay addicted.

1. Don’t take the risk of being Honest– You won’t be too vulnerable and you won’t stay sober either. Our addictions grow in the dark, so keep your secrets and keep your porn.

2. Only go to 12-step meetings when it is convenient. You are a busy person and it can be very difficult to juggle family, work, and recovery. Keep your meetings as a low priority and keep acting out.

3. Find a counselor that won’t hold you accountable – A good counselor that understands this problem will push you to do the things you need to do to stay sober. They will hold you accountable. That can be uncomfortable and awkward. Stick with a counselor who knows less than you do about porn addiction and stick with your addiction.

4. Masturbation– You can tell yourself that it’s okay to masturbate as long as you don’t use pornography just like the alcoholic can have a glass of wine with dinner, the gambling addict can still play cards, and the heroin junkie can do with a fix now and then. It’s what we call fantasy. Masturbate in early sobriety and get back to your pornography quicker.

5. Don’t get a 12-step sponsor – Asking someone to be your sponsor feels pretty weird, calling him is awkward, and having coffee and talking is stranger still. Sponsorship is a good idea that you will get to soon. Take your time and find the right person. Eventually you will find the right sponsor or maybe you will just act out again.

6. Don’t get an Internet filter– Take your time with this one. Set the passwords later when you get a chance. Just don’t go to the porn sites for now. An internet filter or block makes it much harder to access pornography and you don’t really need all that support. Be sure to keep your smart phone too.

7. Neglect good self care– Now is the time to work as many hours as you can, stay up late working or watching TV, or just eating whatever looks good. Exercise is optional. Burn the candle and watch your sexual sobriety melt away.

That’s the list. The top seven ways you can stay addicted to pornography. It’s your choice. Please choose wisely.