Massage Addiction – Are You at Risk?

As a massage therapist, I work hard to earn repeat customers by way of offering a great service at a price that reflects value for money.

Getting to know a customer and their likes and dislikes over time makes the massage much more easier. Massaging is a highly personal service so any familiarity built over time, helps both the massage therapist and the client relax into what is a very enjoyable experience.

Where there is no ‘standard’ rate of frequency for being massaged, most Massage Therapists would suggest one massage per month is a standard rate of frequency for a repeat customer. More sessions may be required depending on whether an injury or health concern is being treated.

So what happens when a customer starts booking massages weekly, or twice per week, for no reason other than they just ‘like being massaged and massaged by you in particular. In any other profession, accelerated frequency of a customer is a welcome event. In the world of massage, it may actually cause concern to the Massage Therapist.

Could this customer be addicted to massage? If they are, is this a negative thing?

One often associates addition to what are regarded as negative habits – smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, excessive gambling, etc. Or, addiction is often associated to events that give people a ‘rush’ of sorts. High impact sports, bungee jumping, sky diving, etc. But massage? The act of being pampered into slumber!

If we break it down, my belief is that our society has become one where ‘touching’ others is at the very least, avoided – think about the discomfort of standing close to others in an elevator, or how one says ‘sorry’ when they accidentally touch by someone in the street (well most of the time). Consider how we bustle for our own patch of turf on public transport. How we act in the workplace is highly regulated and ‘touching’ of any type may point toward sexual harassment. I don’t disagree with the need to protect all in a workplace against any form of discrimination.

Human beings are programmed to be social – we seek community and we seek the company of others.

Now think about a person, who is either single or in a non affectionate ‘non touching’ relationship. They wake up and go to work and in every instance where they have ‘touched’ someone albeit accidentally, they apologise.

It is actually possible that some people in our society today go through whole days, or even months and never get ‘purposely touched’ in a positive, healing, way by someone.

Could some be using massage as a way of simply being touched? Where does someone go who yearns being touched in a non sexual, healing, pampering way go?

In a society where touching is avoided, discouraged or legislated against, one can see how easily some may become addicted to what in its essence, is a basic human need – being touched.

Gambling and Taking a Risk – Do You Know the Difference?

Learning how to take risks in your life is a key skill in achieving success throughout your entire life. Every successful person in all areas of life has taken some risk at some point in time. There is a big difference between taking a risk and gambling. Many people are not able to distinguish a significant difference between the two. We are going to talk about the difference between each of these things so you can understand them in detail. From now on, make a commitment to yourself that you only take calculated risks and not gamble with your life or your money.

We all have heard stories about people who go to casinos while they’re on vacation, mainly in Las Vegas. Las Vegas is known for the millions and millions of dollars that people lose each and every year because they have an addiction problem. This addiction problem comes in the form of gambling with money that they really do not have to spend or lose. It is sad and unfortunate, but many family members gamble with their life savings or their child’s college tuition money. Gambling has become a serious an addict of the problem in our country today.

A personal friend of mine that I have known for a few years now has always been a saver and a diligently hard worker since the first day I met them. It was only six months ago that I heard a story about my friend losing all of his money at the racetrack. Deep down, the person had an addictive personality that led them to continually gamble, and eventually lose all of their money. This is something you do not ever want to have happen to you.

Taking a calculated risk is completely different than gambling. When you take a calculated risk, you are making an educated guess based off of a set of rules and information that you follow. For example, professional stock traders go buy a set of rules whenever they are placing a trade. They know exactly when they will get out to if the trade goes wrong and they stick to their rules. They have a calculated amount of money that they are willing to put at risk and lose that will not damage their portfolio. This is called taking a risk, but it is a calculated risk. Emotions do not have anything to do with taking this calculated risk, it is all based off of logical data.

Many people who gamble are emotionally addicted to the process. People who take calculated risks only use their logical thinking part of their brain. Daniel Goldman calls this emotional intelligence. This is a key skill and learning what the differences between gambling and taking a risk.